Living in Lagos, one cannot help but confront the stark realities of poverty that permeate the city. The vibrant energy and hustle often mask a deep-seated struggle for survival. Driving from one point to another, you’re likely to encounter individuals, often young men and women, pleading for money for basic necessities like transportation and food. It’s jarring to witness this desperation in a city that touts itself as the “Centre of Excellence,” creating an ironic juxtaposition between its image and the lived experience of many.
Beyond the persistent begging, the streets of Lagos are crowded with agberos—street touts who harass drivers for money—and security officials who seem more interested in exploiting citizens than in ensuring safety. This creates an atmosphere of mistrust, where every interaction is tinged with suspicion and anxiety. The struggle to navigate daily life can feel overwhelming, as one is constantly on guard against exploitation.
In stark contrast, my recent experiences in Owerri have illuminated a different reality—one characterized by decency, kindness, and a sense of community. The behaviors I’ve observed there have been both surprising and heartwarming. For instance, I wanted to buy food from a local Calabar woman known for her cooking, but when her food wasn’t ready, I sought alternatives. The woman I asked for help not only recommended the Calabar joint but also took the time to promote it, even sending her child to fetch me a meal. Such an act of kindness and community spirit is a breath of fresh air. In Lagos, such generosity is often overshadowed by anger and envy, making it difficult for people to connect on a human level.
Interestingly, I have not seen individuals struggling with mental illness or begging on the streets during my time in Owerri. The infrastructure here appears to function better; traffic lights work, road signs are respected, and the police presence feels less intrusive. When I visited the government house, I encountered officers who were polite, clean, and, most surprisingly, willing to help a stranded motorist by pushing a broken-down car. This contrasts sharply with the experiences many have in Lagos, where police often seem more focused on generating revenue through fines and bribes than providing assistance.
In Lagos, when a car breaks down, the overwhelming feeling is one of despair. The likelihood of encountering corrupt police or aggressive traffic officials is high, leaving one feeling vulnerable and isolated. This environment fosters a survival mentality where people merely exist rather than truly live, leading to a pervasive sense of frustration and helplessness.
Conversely, in Owerri, there is a palpable sense of well-being among the people. The absence of visible poverty and the lack of individuals begging for help creates a more pleasant atmosphere. Civility and courtesy abound, and interactions are often filled with warmth rather than hostility. The community spirit here is one of cooperation, where people are willing to lend a hand, offer kind words, or simply share a smile.
This contrast raises important questions about the social fabric of these two cities. Is it a matter of education and upbringing? Does Owerri’s relatively stable environment stem from stronger familial structures and community bonds? Or is it simply a cultural difference that fosters a more compassionate approach to life? In Owerri, people seem to embody a sense of dignity and mutual respect, which is refreshing in a country where tribalism and societal divisions can create tension.
In Lagos, however, the rampant tribalism often leads to division and misunderstanding, with derogatory labels being thrown around casually. This societal pressure adds to the challenges of living in a city where everyone is competing for limited resources, ultimately detracting from the human experience.
The experiences in Lagos and Owerri underscore the importance of human connection and compassion. They remind us that, despite our circumstances, the way we treat one another defines the quality of our lives. While Lagos may be the commercial hub of Nigeria, it serves as a cautionary tale about the cost of unchecked competition and a lack of community. In contrast, Owerri exemplifies the potential for a more humane society, where kindness and cooperation prevail over greed and suspicion.
Ultimately, this reflection serves as a call to action for individuals, communities, and leaders alike. We must strive to foster environments where empathy and support flourish, reminding ourselves that we are all part of a larger human family. By embracing our shared humanity, we can build communities that are not only thriving but also deeply connected—where people live, not just exist.
Anthony Emeka Nwosu, lives in Lagos and came to Owerri for business and made this observation of the city
there is a palpable sense of well-being among the people. The absence of visible poverty and the lack of individuals begging for help creates a more pleasant atmosphere. Civility and courtesy abound, and interactions are often filled with warmth rather than hostility.
