Gentlemen, do not be deceived. A significant part of why your marriage thrives today is because you can provide for your family.
Your wife respects and submits to you largely because you meet her needs, not just because of love. While love is important, it can sometimes falter under pressure.
When you lose your job and struggle to find another, you’ll soon realize that money can hold more weight than love in a marriage.
I’ve had many men reach out to me, expressing how their wives’ behavior changed when they lost their jobs. Reading through their comments, I couldn’t help but smile. It’s clear that many men misunderstand women’s perspectives.
As an expert on relationships, I can tell you this: most women will change their attitudes when their husbands lose their jobs and are no longer able to provide.
And when I say “most,” I mean the majority, with few exceptions.
There are four stages that many women go through when their husbands lose their source of income:
- Sympathetic Stage
At first, your wife will feel sympathy for you. She’ll recall all the good times when you provided for the family, when food was always on the table, and you took care of her and the kids. If she’s working, she’ll step up and support you without complaint. She’ll respect you even more, offering emotional and moral support, believing that this is only temporary. She’ll give you a time frame to get back on your feet. If you’re fortunate enough to secure another job within that time frame, she’ll commend your resilience. But if you don’t, prepare for the next phase. - Annoying Stage
At this point, small things you do will irritate her. She won’t express it directly, but internally, she’s frustrated. Why are you pressing the toothpaste in the middle? Why didn’t you hang the towel outside to dry? Why aren’t you preparing dinner when she comes home, despite you being home all day? These issues weren’t a problem before, but now they are, and her respect for you begins to dwindle. If this stage drags on without any progress from you, you’ll find yourself moving into the next stage. - Irritating Stage
Now, you become intolerable to her. The sympathy she had for you turns into resentment. Every little thing you do irritates her, and she starts comparing you to other men who’ve managed to secure jobs after losing theirs. She stops allowing intimacy, withdraws her affection, and may even deny you some privileges. If you still haven’t secured a job, you’re about to enter the final stage. - Frustrating Stage
In this stage, the relationship reaches a breaking point. It becomes clear that she can no longer live with a jobless husband. Whether she leaves you or you decide to move out, the marriage is on the brink of collapse.
No woman is wired to be the breadwinner for long. While the timeline for each woman differs, no woman will forever respect and submit to a man who cannot provide. Some might transition from one stage to the next within months, while others may take years. But the truth remains: without a reliable income, your marriage and happiness are at risk.
This is why it is crucial to protect your income source by any means necessary.
Your mental peace, the success of your marriage, and even your overall well-being depend on it.
If you lose a job and your dream role doesn’t appear immediately, take on any legitimate work that allows you to maintain your dignity and put food on the table.
Women, I apologize, but the truth is tough to hear. Gentlemen, you’ve probably seen this happen, or at least heard about it. Don’t be angry; this is how most women respond, as it is in their nature.
Only a very small percentage may act differently. Where does your marriage stand?
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